In today’s episode, we’re exploring what avoidant attached people actually need to feel safe and secure in a relationship — and how partners can support that without self-abandoning.
Avoidant attachment is often misunderstood — labelled as cold, distant, or commitment-phobic. But when we look beneath those surface-level behaviours, what we often find is a deep need for space, safety, and self-reliance.
We’ll cover:
Why space needs to be respected, not punished
The importance of having a partner who can self-regulate rather than emotionally offload
How clear, direct, and honest communication builds safety
The value of each partner having a full, meaningful life outside the relationship
Why pacing matters — and how moving too fast can trigger shutdown
Balancing lightness and heaviness
Whether you’re avoidant yourself or in a relationship with someone who is, this episode will help you better understand the conditions that allow these relationships to thrive.
Highlighted Links
Free Break-Up Training: The 3 Shifts That Help Anxiously Attached People Heal After a Break-up
Free Training: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love
Additional Resources
Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here
