The School of Greatness • 21 May 2025

Stanford Psychologist: The #1 Psychological Skill To Master The Art of Influence & Transform Your Relationships

T2
solid
solid

Leave an Amazon Rating or Review for my New York Times Bestselling book, Make Money Easy!

What if the key to deeper connections isn't in what you say, but in how you listen? Dr. Caroline Fleck, licensed psychologist and Stanford instructor, reveals the transformative power of validation - a skillset that revolutionized psychology yet remains largely unknown outside clinical settings. Her journey through depression and breast cancer gives her unique insight into why feeling truly seen matters more than love itself. She breaks down the surprising science behind techniques like "copying" that can increase trust by 25% and even overcome implicit bias. This conversation unveils a step-by-step framework that anyone can use to create authentic connection, navigate difficult emotions, and transform relationships - whether you're dealing with a suicidal patient or simply trying to understand your partner better.

Buy Dr. Fleck’s book Validation: How the Skill Set That Revolutionized Psychology Will Transform Your Relationships, Increase Your Influence, and Change Your Life

In this episode you will learn:

  • Why validation is the foundation of all human connection and may be even more important than love itself

  • The "validation ladder" – an 8-step process therapists use to make others feel truly seen and heard

  • How mimicking someone's body language activates mirror neurons that help you genuinely understand their emotions

  • The counterintuitive way to handle your difficult emotions – feeling them fully without the narrative

  • A step-by-step process for self-validation that can transform shame into peace in minutes

For more information go to https://www.lewishowes.com/1774

For more Greatness text PODCAST to +1 (614) 350-3960

More SOG episodes we think you’ll love:

Jerry Wise – greatness.lnk.to/1747SC

Kerry Washington  – greatness.lnk.to/1768SC

Evy Poumpouras – greatness.lnk.to/1764SC

Get more from Lewis! 

Get my New York Times Bestselling book, Make Money Easy!

Get The Greatness Mindset audiobook on Spotify

Text Lewis AI

YouTube

Instagram

Website

Tiktok

Facebook

X